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Lying to my children about food.

One day I decided to stop lying to my children about what they were eating. I would always try to sneak in a little hemp hearts or cod liver oil or whatever my newest fad food was at the time. I started to wonder if this practice may have been hurting them more than helping. I thought about this deeply and realized that it didn’t feel honest and authentic to me. By lying about their food I was sending them the message that I didn’t trust them to want to nourish their bodies. I was also creating a relationship of distrust in such an intimate way. Food is something that we put inside our bodies. How could I be all gung-ho for food labelling yet not allow my children to know what they were eating?!?!? I’m amazed by my own level of narrow minded thinking but we grow and learn better, right?
Another thing I thought about was how powerful it is to associate what we eat and how we feel. I wasn’t allowing my children that opportunity to make the food/body connection because I assumed that I knew best. I assumed they wouldn’t want to do the best thing for themselves. That’s crazy talk (or thought). All humans want the best.
So, I swallowed my fear and clenched my butt a little, when I said ” there’s hearts and livers in that chili.” and “Yes, I added some raw egg to that”.
When I first started being honest they would often decline to eat because I had trained them that health foods were to be hidden and mistrusted. Things are much different now.
My oldest son was sure that he HATED kombucha because I didn’t tell him that I added into jellos and soups and other things, but once I started telling him, then he knew he liked kombucha and was more willing to try stuff. Everything, he was more open to trying everything!
We are actually coming to a place where the previously hidden ingredients are now prized treasures. My daughter often asks if something is good for her as she knows the value of it. My son looks up recipes for new healthy things to try. He can be heard saying such things into google search as “heallllthy marshhhhhhmalllllows.”. I believe that this honesty has improved our relationships (and our lives) in so many ways. I feel like I can openly talk about what I am fermenting and making with it and they are interested and happy to try it, most of the time. They are still human though and sometimes I wonder when I will have gone too far. The boys did try the authentic headcheese I made last week even after seeing the “ingredients”. 😀

Beautiful headcheese. I was told by a food historian, author, professor guy (Ken Albala) that I nailed it. It’s so exciting to take something that would otherwise be garbage and make food.

Happy Kombucha SCOBY. We don’t eat these. Yet.

Do you sneak foods into your kids?

Getting Kids To Eat Healthy

Let’s not pretend that I have information you don’t. I’m not an expert. I’m one mom like many. Most days I am with ragged hair trying, pushing on to the next thing. And it’s not always easy. Many times I want to pull my disheveled hair out because the task of feeding children feels so overwhelmingly complicated and impossible. It seems I am not alone, so let’s talk about it. I don’t even know where to begin but to share my stories here with you and listen to yours.
So feeding kids….I don’t consider any of my five kids to be picky eaters but that’s just the language I use. It has nothing to do with what they will actually eat. They all have their own preferences and favourite foods and I often love that. My main goal is to have eating be a pleasant experience for my children and FOR ME. 😛
I am making this my spiritual practice:

-Never forcing them to eat anything, I respect and appreciate their varied and sometimes delicate tastes.
-Never telling them how much to eat, children know how much to eat and this ability can be diminished when the are told to eat more than they feel like. This also means never saying “One more bite.”
-Offering lots of choices.
-Cooking lots of new foods, and cooking them properly, like never over cooking vegetables.
-Cooking and having available foods that I know they will like.
-Asking my children how they feel after they eat a certain thing. This must be genuine though and never turn into “I told you so.” When they feel sick.
-Adding healthy high fats into their favorites (like spaghetti) I add non-virgin coconut oil as it has no taste and is the highest in saturated fats, around 90%. I also add egg yolks into soups and sauces and whatever else I can.
-Involving them in the food process like harvesting and butchering (if they want to, and they always want to).
-Having open discussions about food.
-Being open to them helping with cooking. I know it’s messy and a little dangerous but they will be ok. They will learn to respect the stove. They will also be less likely to drag over a chair when mom isn’t looking and test the food.
-Not commenting on what or how much they ate. I think that stress can cause picky eaters. I imagine it’s hard
To eat when someone is constantly judging how you eat. It may even give them a stomach ache if we put so much energy into it.
We are becoming much more connected to our food sources. We visit the farms and know the farmers. When you have been on the farm it makes the food that much more special and desirable.

For the most part I have been able to relax and trust them to eat what they need and when. It keeps getting better too. I’m actually shocked by how much they ask for homemade soups and how they dislike foods lacking nutrition and real tastes. My oldest three have a definite understanding of the connection between what they put in their body and how it functions. We ask each other “what are you making your body out of?”. I’ve made mine out of a lot if soup, beet kvass, eggs and raw carrots. I have noticed that the older three will not overdo foods that are processed and sugary. I have given the freedom to eat them when we come in contact with them and I’m awed by their preferences for real foods. I’m still trying to find balance with the second youngest as he will eat and eat candy, processed foods. Once he gets a taste for it, he doesn’t want to stop and that has been challenging. I don’t have any rules I use but I try to talk to him and I notice it’s getting better. I have had many “no more freaking candy.” Moments and it’s felt stressful and I’ve felt powerless. I’ve also left it avoided situations when the food is really bad. But what else can I do? As long as they are in the world they are going to be exposed to things that I don’t agree with and that I deem harmful. I have to focus on the positive and keep adding that in. I keep adding in good foods, finding new and appealing ways to eat them. Our group of friends has grown into people that only have good foods to contribute and that’s so amazing. For me it’s been, having choice and guidance. It that an oxymoron?


Thinking outside the cereal box helps too. Here they are eating mashed potatoes for breakfast loaded with coconut oil and grass-fed butter.