Monthly Archives: September 2012

Soon I’ll be leaving this stupid online life.

How did you react to the title of this blog? I’ve been noticing a lot of people making comments about how they shouldn’t be on the computer and that they are now returning to real life. Some people go as far as to create an online life and then comment about how stupid it is and how they will be removing themselves from it. It leads me to think that they do not enjoy our fb banter, sharing of photos and liking of favourite quotes. It means something to me. I love mornings with hot coffee and an update as to how my friends are doing, especially the ones far away. It is fast and easy to stay connected to my community with ten minutes online.
I wonder if we have just been told too many times that an online life is anti-social, not spiritual and a waste of time? Even those of us who do not complain, I think often feel guilty and think we should be doing something else; something real. I wonder if this type of attitude towards computers and technology in general is not allowing us to experience it to it’s full potential. Technology can be a wonderful tool to facilitate learning and relationships. If the computer is a problem for you, I imagine that it is only a symptom of a deeper issue. Lack of connection? Lack of passion? Everything is perspective. I am seeing my screen time as being productive and life enhancing. I use it to connect with people, as entertainment, to find recipes or write silly little blogs.
Why do we complain about the things that we choose so much, so often? Let go and enjoy it. Enjoy everything.

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Nourishing lemon-lime melts, no bake.

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Five minute Lemon-Lime Melts:

1 1/2 cups of coconut flakes and/or other solids (chia, hemp, flax, ground nuts)
Dash of sea salt
1/4 cup honey (you can use more or less)
1/2 cup virgin coconut oil
Zest and juice of one lime
Zest and juice of one lemon

Cream coconut oil and honey. I used an electric beater. Add honey.
Add remaining ingredients.
I scraped out lemon and lime to add pulp.
Drop onto cookie sheet and refrigerate. I make them quite small as they are very rich!
Enjoy!

My partners favourite cookies, done raw and nourishing (No-Bake Chocolate Macaroons).

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These chocolate macaroons are amazing, easy to make and super nourishing. The possibilities of flavours for them are endless. As long as you have enough coconut oil to make them harden you can add anything! Try them flavored with raspberry, cherry, huckleberry?

Nourishing chocolate macaroons:

Whisk together until no lumps:

1 cup coconut flakes – (or ground nuts)
1/2 cup other solids – I used hemp, sprouted flax and chia
1/4 cup cocoa
Dash of cinnamon
Dash of sea salt
1 tsp vanilla powder (optional)

Cream (or beat together, depending on room temperature of coconut oil):

1/4 cup butter (from grass fed cow is best)
1/2 cup Virgin Coconut oil
1/4 cup honey
1 tsp vanilla extract or almond extract

Mix all ingredients together. Drop onto cookie sheet, making cookies as big or small as your heart desires. Refrigerate and eat when hard, unless you can’t wait. They are that good.

What should be?

How often do you think that something should not be? Now your first response may be “never!” but your actions of blame and criticism could be saying that you often think things should be different. Why? It seems highly ineffective to will away the past yet I see people trying to do it every single day.
Yesterday I was feeling sad. But it was not a bad day for me. Actually it was powerful and life enhancing and I grew as a person more than I do most days.
I am finding that anger, stress, sadness and frustration become negative only when I start thinking that they should not be. It is only my thoughts that make me suffer. Then I can fall into that trap that makes me believe that everything is bad and that I hate my life and everything sucks and everyone is stupid, including me.
I find it strange that something so intangible as a thought can be so powerful as to destroy or create my life. Have you experienced this?
So, I am choosing new thoughts now and I am not believing the ones that no longer serve me.
When the darkness seeps in it sends me a signal and I think “Oh, I am sad, angry, frustrated, gassy or whatever.” and then I think “Oh yes… I remember this.” and it always has something life changing to teach me. Mostly, it reminds me to be kind.
The next time you find yourself in darkness, can you look inside? Can you wade trough the blame and ask what does this have to teach me? because really, it doesn’t matter what other people are doing. Especially strangers you will never see again.
You are the creator of your experience and your life. I promise you that with this type of clarity you will be able to see and ask for what you truly desire. And it’ll get easier every time you do it until it becomes second nature and you’ll love everyone and everything and you will dance around with flowers in your hair using run-on sentences cuz you just don’t care.

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Observing my rage, watching my thoughts.

Do you ever remain still, listening and watching the whirlwind that is your emotions? Can you feel the ups and downs without moving a muscle?
I stop myself, like I did today. We were getting out of the family van. I noticed a sudden feeling, a sharp frustration. I heard the voices in my head “Why is he screaming like that?!? Fuck, that’s annoying.”. I took a breath and committed to being still. I knew my thoughts could be swayed. I thought about my thoughts, pondering if that was once said to me.
These feeling remained as I moved around to unload children from the vehicle. I looked at my daughter’s messy hair and noticed how I could easily be consumed with a brush in hand and force upon her head and she would be proper. She didn’t want her hair brushed and so I let it go. It took strength to ignore the thoughts “What will people think?” and “She looks like a dirty little girl.”. Instead I felt her love and mine for her and the thoughts didn’t matter almost like were not real. Are my thoughts real? I’ve discovered that they don’t have to matter. I can sit back and watch the ride. I can get very withdrawn and quiet when this happens and I wonder if my partner knows that is what I am doing. It wasn’t until now that I’ve been able to verbalize my behavior. I’d like to invite you to silence yourself and observe the next time you feel that bubbling up of anger, frustration and even happiness. Expand what is good and change what is not. What’s good?