To be honest, I have been considering ways to make my blog more popular.
It would be so easy to publish something controversial about how evil formula is, how co-sleeping is the only way to produce confident children or how a pack of cigarettes a day is good for you. I would receive a lot of “likes” and a lot of nasty comments at the same time. It would all be for publicity and in my favour.
But then I got to thinking, which I sometimes do…
I thought about the debates on breastfeeding, abortion, co-sleeping and circumcision and I realized that they are merely symptoms of a bigger issue.
We post pictures and articles that will clearly state which way is the right way and which way is wrong. They are so in your face and I think that they only speak to the people who already agree. Do we actually believe that we can change someones behavior by posting such concrete (and often harsh) information?
I think that it is happening that we take small ideas, other people’s quotes and parts of articles and then form an opinion based on very little information and on virtually no experience.
I do have my ideas about what is best, but I don’t know if my ideas are the end-all answers. There is something deeper. I still act out of a compulsive need to be made whole and that can potentially invalidate a lot of my actions and opinions. I am still working on being in the moment and not worrying about the superficial. I have made it my number one priority and so it gets better and easier as time goes on. I become less attached to ideas and things, and I am believing that I am whole regardless of circumstance.
If we could identify and address the deep issue then we would not have to argue over our rights to breastfeed or look for ways to diminish our guilt over formula feeding. We could live in peace and love, clear headed to make the “right” decisions.
What is the deeper issue? What causes us to argue and google the information to back up our actions?
A loss of connection.
If I feel connected to someone, I am unable to condemn their choices. I love them and their journey.
We all want the same things; happiness, love and security. And we want these things for our children.I see their struggles to be good and it is beautiful even when they fail.
Could our time be better spent looking for ways to connect rather than picketing our opinions?
So many of the blog posts that I see going around, they only further the divides between us.
I know I am taking a chance by not posting my stance on anything. I know it is not what makes people popular. But it doesn’t matter. What matters is that we start hearing each other and that we start enjoying each others company. That will do for now, the rest will come.